10 Ways to Tell He's Lying

Dating Advice: 10 Ways to Tell He's Lying
By dating editor Ranya Fattouh for Glamour Photo: Getty Images Updated: Nov 19, 2009



We're all guilty of a little white lie here and there, but when it comes to major dishonesty, there are a few telltale signs every woman should look for. Here are 10 tip-offs that he may be hiding something from you.

1. Your gut tells you something is wrong.

If you feel like something is off, it probably is. "It may not be exactly what your imagination is suggesting, but we don't experience knots for no reason," says Brenda Della Casa, author of "Cinderella Was a Liar: The Real Reason You Can't Find (or Keep) a Prince." Most women know they're being lied to long before they actually admit it, but they don't immediately act on their intuition. "Women tolerate a lot of excuses," says comedian Steve Harvey, author of "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man." "A guy that always has an excuse or lie as to why it didn't happen, why it couldn't happen, why it won't happen, is no good."

2. The details don't add up.

"Generally, liars mess up and change a detail in their story," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a New York City-based clinical sexologist. Ask yourself: "Does this really make sense?" says Robert Feldman, author of "The Liar in Your Life: The Way to Truthful Relationships." "Look beyond what he's saying and try to be an objective observer of his behavior."

3. He suffers from TMI (or TLI -- that's Too Little Information!).

Guys who lie tend to give too much information or keep very quiet -- be cautious of both. "You know your guy and you know when he's not acting like himself. If your guy is chatty and suddenly he's not, something's up. If your guy is very quiet and suddenly he's giving you too many details, something's up," says Jenny Lee, coauthor of "Women Are Crazy, Men Are Stupid."

4. He refuses to get personal.

Most people who are comfortable in a relationship are open to sharing details of their lives. If a guy is unusually distant and keeps almost everything about himself secret, he's probably holding something back. "Don't be fooled by a guy who says 'that's too deep; I don't want to discuss that.' Good guys will appreciate the depth of your questions; liars will run from them," says Harvey.

5. He starts covering his tracks.

If your guy is constantly deleting his browser history or shutting down his email, or if there are numerous occasions where it's impossible to reach him, you might want to get out of there -- fast. "If you're with a guy who carries two cell phones, but one of them never rings, or if he only pays in cash or immediately heads for the shower when he gets home, those are all major red flags," says Nancy Dreyfus, author of "Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash."

6. He's super defensive.

"If you find that he pauses a lot when responding to your questions, becomes overly fidgety and defensive, or can't look you in the eye, be suspicious that he might not be telling you the truth," says Kerner.

7. He repeats his story.

"Men tend to say the truth just once," says Howard J. Morris, coauthor of "Women Are Crazy, Men Are Stupid." "It's the truth, after all. It doesn't need to be repeated three times."

8. He constantly blames you.

Although it's natural for a guy to be a little testy when interrogated, if you notice that he's always shifting the blame so that you look like the guilty party, question his motives. "If every concern you have gets twisted around and thrown back at you, he's pulling a classic guilty-man move. Keeping you on the defensive keeps him out of trouble," says Della Casa.

9. He has an answer for everything.

Watch out for excuses that are very buttoned up, a little too perfect, and rehearsed. "If you find yourself making sense of something that doesn't make sense or making exceptions, stop yourself," says Dreyfus.

10. He makes the lies seem like no big deal.

Liars have an advantage because what they say is what we want to hear, and they know it. Even if he's feeding you little lies that make you feel good about yourself, remember that they are lies. "It's hard to constantly be thinking, Is this the truth, is this not the truth? Even if it seems innocent enough, someone who lies about little things is going to lie about big things," says Feldman. "If you do stay in the relationship, rebuild trust slowly and be clear that if he lies again, it's over

Thinking Of Loved Ones Helps To Reduce Pain

Thinking Of Loved Ones Helps To Reduce Pain: Study

LOS ANGELS, Nov 16 (Bernama) -- The mere thought of loved ones can help reduce pain that underscores the importance of the social relationships and staying socially connected, China's Xinhua news agency reported, citing a study conducted by researchers at the University of California in Los Angeles (UCLA).

This study demonstrates how much of an impact our social ties can have on our experiences and fits with other work, emphasizing the importance of social support for physical and mental health," study co-author Naomi Eisenberger said.

Eisenberger, who is also the Assistant Professor of Psychology and Director of UCLA's Social and Affective Neuroscience Laboratory, said 25 women, who are in good relationship with their boyfriends respectively, were shown their loved ones photographs, and asked whether it can reduce their pain.

During this study, the women received moderately painful heat stimuli to their forearms while they went through a number of different conditions. In one set of conditions, they viewed photographs of their boyfriend, a stranger and a chair, Xinhua cited the studying as saying.

Eisenberger, citing the study, said that the women felt less pain to the heat stimuli when they are looking at their boyfriends picture, compare to the photograph of the chair or the stranger.

"Thus, the mere reminder of one's partner through a simple photograph was capable of reducing pain."

In another set of conditions, each woman held the hand of her boyfriend, the hand of a male stranger and a squeeze ball.

The study found that when women were holding their boyfriends' hands, they reported less physical pain than when they were holding a stranger's hand or a ball while receiving the same amount of heat stimulation.

"This changes our notion of how social support influences people," Eisenberger said.

He added that in order for social support to make one feeling good, that person should have some kind of support, which are very responsive to the emotional needs.

He also advised those people who are going through a stressful or painful experience, should bring a photo of their loved ones, if they cannot bring a loved one with them.

The study appears in the November 2009 issue of the journal Psychological Science.

-- BERNAMA

Air Zam-zam Kehadiran Yang Tidak Boleh Dilepaskan

13 November, 2009 10:48 AM

Air Zam-zam Kehadiran Yang Tidak Boleh Dilepaskan


MEKAH, 13 Nov ((Bernama) -- Jemaah haji yang mengunjungi Masjidil Haram untuk mengerjakan umrah, solat berjemaah atau ibadah lain tidak perlu bimbang sekiranya merasa haus.

Ini kerana di setiap sudut Masjidil Haram air zam-zam mudah diperoleh, lengkap dengan gelas pakai buang...hanya picit punat bekas takungan air atau pili lalu airpun terpancut keluar dan segala-galanya percuma. Di tempat tawaf, tempat sa'i, di halaman masjid air yang berkhasiat ini sentiasa tersedia.

Ketika pulang dari Masjidil Haram, banyak jemaah terlebih dahulu mengisi botol airnya dengan air zam-zam lalu dijinjing untuk di bawa ke tempat penginapan masing-masing.

Memang menjimatkan kerana mereka tidak perlu membazir membeli air mineral yang harganya di tanah suci ialah 2SR bagi botol kecil dan 4SR bagi botol besar.

Jemaah dari segenap penjuru dunia yang dianggar dua juta orang juga akan diberi lima liter air zam-zam ketika pulang ke tanah air masing-masing.

Pengarah pengagihan air zam-zam di Masjidil Haram Aifan Al Juaid baru-baru ini berkata penggunaan harian air zam-zam secara purata ialah 100 meter padu pada hari biasa dan jumlah itu berganda kepada 200 meter padu pada Jumaat, manakala pada bulan Ramadan dan musim Haji, ia meningkat kepada lebih 1,000 meter padu.

Al Juaid berkata jemaah boleh meminum air zam-zam di 90 tempat air itu ditempatkan dengan 1,100 paip di dalam masjid dan di 43 kawasan dengan 100 paip di perkarangan masjid.

-- BERNAMA

Chocolate Milk May Reduce Inflammation

Nutrition: Chocolate Milk May Reduce Inflammation
By RONI CARYN RABIN - New York Times
Published: November 9, 2009

Move over, red wine. Make room for chocolate milk. A new study suggests that regular consumption of skim milk with flavonoid-rich cocoa may reduce inflammation, potentially slowing or preventing development of atherosclerosis. Researchers noted, however, that the effect was not as pronounced as that seen with red wine.

Effect of cocoa powder on the modulation of inflammatory biomarkers in patients at high risk of cardiovascular disease (American Journal of Clinical Nutrition) Scientists in Barcelona, Spain, recruited 47 volunteers ages 55 and older who were at risk for heart disease. Half were given 20-gram sachets of soluble cocoa powder to drink with skim milk twice a day, while the rest drank plain skim milk. After one month, the groups were switched.

Blood tests found that after participants drank chocolate milk twice a day for four weeks, they had significantly lower levels of several inflammatory biomarkers, though some markers of cellular inflammation remained unchanged.

Participants also had significantly higher levels of good HDL cholesterol after completing the chocolate milk regimen, according to the study, which appears in the November issue of The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition and is already online.

“Since atherosclerosis is a low-grade inflammatory disease of the arteries, regular cocoa intake seems to prevent or reduce” it, said Dr. Ramón Estruch of the University of Barcelona, the paper’s senior author, adding that more studies were needed.

Building a Diet That Lowers Inflammation

Building a Diet That Lowers Inflammation














Certain foods reduce inflammation, while others raise it. What to eat, what to avoid
Inflammation, normally part of a healthy immune response, is increasingly thought to play a leading role in encouraging a number of major killers, including cancer, diabetes, heart disease, stroke, and Alzheimer's. Dangerous chronic inflammation occurs when the immune system stays turned on and starts attacking healthy cells and tissues-triggering, say, cancer-causing genetic mutations or the bursting of artery plaque. What you eat, though, helps determine how much inflammation you produce. Certain foods promote it, while others are inflammation-fighting superstars, says nutritionist and family physician Ann Kulze, author of Dr. Ann's 10-Step Diet. Some recommendations:

GO FOR ...

Omega-3 fats. These are among the most potent anti-inflammatory foods. Best sources: fatty fish like salmon and tuna; walnuts and other nuts; flaxseed; and canola oil.
Colorful produce. Red onions, tomatoes, broccoli, red grapes, berries, and oranges all are packed with chemicals called flavonoids that have anti-inflammatory properties.

Herbs and spices. Ginger and turmeric, either dried or fresh, are among the most healthful spices. For herbs, sprinkle on some fresh rosemary.
Chocolate and wine. Red wine has anti-inflammatory chemicals like resveratrol. Dark chocolate-look for 70 percent or higher cacao-protects against inflammation, and research suggests that hot cocoa does too.

CUT BACK ON ...

Omega-6 fats. They trigger the body to produce pro-inflammatory chemicals. Oils rich in omega-6 fats include corn, safflower, and vegetable oils; mayonnaise; and many salad dressings.

Trans fats. They're disappearing from packaged foods as more and more research shows they drive inflammation. And now they're on nutrition labels, so they're easier to avoid.

Rancid fats. Don't heat oil to the point that it's smoking, since that oxidizes fats and turns them into inflammation boosters. Also, avoid old peanut butter and that chocolate bar stashed away for years in your pantry.

White starches. Flour, sugar, white rice, and instant mashed potatoes, for example, all cause quick spikes in blood sugar levels, causing the production of advanced glycation end products that spur inflammation.

Animal fats. Foods high in this fat-egg yolks, red meat, poultry skin, whole-milk dairy products-also contain high amounts of arachidonic acid, a molecule used by the body to create inflammation.

Excess alcohol. Avoid drinking more than one or two alcoholic beverages a day; too much alcohol can cause changes in the intestinal lining, allowing bacteria to pass through into the bloodstream, triggering inflammation.

Fight stress and depression with five nutrient-buffed snacks

Fight stress and depression with five nutrient-buffed snacks

Sorry, ice cream isn't on the list! But the following foods do have nutrients that can help fight stress and depression, says Elizabeth Somer, RD, author of Eat Your Way to Happiness.

Food: Oranges, lemons and other citrus fruits
Mood-Boosting Ingredient: Vitamin C
This vitamin helps you cope better in stressful times by lowering your levels of stress hormones. If you get a lot regularly, you'll feel calmer during tough situations.

Food: Nuts
Mood-Boosting Ingredients: Vitamin E, arginine (an amino acid) and magnesium
A handful of nuts will keep you full and satisfied because they have a low glycemic index-which means they don't jack up your blood sugar levels and cause mood swings. It also makes you feel good to eat something that seems decadent (they're considered a little bit naughty because they're high in fat) but actually has health benefits.

Food: Leafy greens
Mood-Boosting Ingredient: Folic Acid
Research has shown that the folic acid in leafy greens such as kale and spinach can reduce depression and even improve blood flow to the brain. If you're not eating at least one serving per day you're more than likely low in folic acid, so try getting more or consider taking a multivitamin that contains it.

Food: Salmon
Mood-Boosting Ingredient: DHA (an omega-3 fatty acid)
The omega-3s in fatty fish such as salmon, mackerel and sardines have been found to improve your mood while lowering the risk of depression and age-related memory loss. The depression link is so strong that American Psychiatric Association suggests that anyone taking antidepressants and/or going through therapy also boost her intake of omega 3s.

Food: Dried cherries
Mood-Boosting Ingredients: Potassium, magnesium and vitamin C
These nutrients all work to curb your body's stress response. Dried cherries also keep your brain healthy because they're packed with antioxidants (including vitamin C), which prevent damage to your brain cells that can lead to memory problems.

Mii Setengah Halal

Mii yang dikeluarkan dan dijual di Indonesia ini mengandungi perisa ayam dan babi dan dilebel 50% halal. Sekurang-kurangnya pengeluar mii ini bertanggungjawab menyatakan kandungan bahan buatan mi ini. Terpulanglah pada anda untuk menilainya.