10 Habits Of Happy Couples

10 Habits Of Happy Couples
By Frokpi

What does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you’re working to improve your marriage, here are a few habits of happy couples.

1. Go to bed at the same time
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

2. Cultivate common interests
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realise that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimise the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single
upsetting incident.

9. Do a “weather” check during the day
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

10. Be proud to be seen with your partner
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact - hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behaviour that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behaviour to become a habit. So select one of the behaviours in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit...and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.

If there was one key to happiness in love and life, and possibly even success, it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, "Just Listen."

When Opportunity Comes to You

When Opportunity Comes to You
Autor : Unknown

A young man wished to marry the farmer's beautiful daughter.
He went to the farmer to ask his permission. The farmer looked
at him and said, "Son, gostand out in that field. I'm going
to release three bulls, one at a time. If you can catch the
tail of any one of the three bulls, you can marry my daughter."

The young man stood in the field awaiting the first bull.
The barn door opened and out came the biggest, meanest looking
bull he had ever seen.. He decided that one of the next bulls
had to be a better choice than this one, so he ran over to the
side and let the bull pass through.

The barn door opened again. Unbelievable. He had never seen
anything so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the
ground, it eyed him. Whatever the next bull was like, it had
to be a better choice than this one he thought. He
ran to the fence and let the bull pass through.

The door opened a third time. A smile came across his face.
This was the weakest bull he had ever seen. This one was his
bull, he said to himself. As the bull came running by,
he positioned himself just right and jumped at just
the exact moment. He threw his hands to grab.....
But alas..... The bull had no tail.



Moral: Life is full of opportunities.
Always grab the first one.

Penawar Demam Denggi

Sudah dua hari anak saya dirawat di hospital kerana demam denggi. Sepanjang dua hari tu, rasanya pesakit yang mengidap demam tu silih berganti saja. Katil di wad sentiasa penuh setiap masa. Ada seorang jiran katil anak saya tu, sudahlah tangan kirinya patah dan bersimen akibat terjatuh waktu kerja, tangan kanannya pula kena cucuk masuk air garam akibat demam denggi. Seorang lagi tu, mata pula lepas operasi akibat terjatuh motor, kena juga demam denggi. Inilah dikatakan 'sudah jatuh ditimpa denggi"

Petikan dari Wikipedia

Demam Denggi merupakan sejenis penyakit yang disebabkan oleh jangkitan virus Denggi (genus Flavivirus) yang disebar oleh nyamuk Aedes betina. Cara penyebarannya ialah melalui gigitan nyamuk aedes orang yang berpenyakit virus denggi kepada orang yang sihat. Terdapat dua jenis denggi yang paling berat iaitu Demam Hemoragik Denggi (DHF) dan Sindrom Kejutan Denggi (DSS).

Virus Denggi akan terpendam di dalam badan pesakit selama 3 - 14 hari (purata 4 hingga 6 hari) sebelum menunjukkan tanda-tanda. Pesakit mungkin akan mengalami demam mengejut diikuti dengan berbagai-bagai tanda dan gejala tidak khusus.
Denggi dan denggi berdarah merupakan penyakit febril akut (acute febrile), dijumpai di kawasan tropika, dengan taburan geografi serupa dengan malaria. Disebabkan oleh satu daripada empat virus serotype yang berkait rapat dari genus Flavivirus, famili Flaviviridae, setiap serotype cukup berbeza menjadikan tiadanya perlindungan bertindan (cross-protection) dan wabak denggi yang disebabkan oleh pelbagai serotype (hyperendemicity) boleh berlaku. Denggi disebarkan kepada manusia oleh nyamuk Aedes aegypti (hanya kadang-kala oleh Aedes albopictus).


Tanda-tanda demam denggi

Demam denggi bermula dengan demam mengejut, dengan sakit kepala teruk, sakit di belakang bebola mata, sakit sendi dan otot (myalgias dan arthralgias, sakit pinggang yang teruk menyebabkan ia juga digelar demam tulang-pecah - break-bone fever) dan gatal-gatal. Ciri-ciri keradangan demam denggi adalah bnintik-bintik merah terang, dan biasanya muncul di anggota bahagian bawah - pada sesetengah pesakit, ia merebak hampir kepada keseluruhan tubuh. Tanda pada kulit yang klasik ialah seluruh kulit tubuh bertukar kemerahan diselangi dengan tompok-tompok kulit warna yang normal (island of white in a sea of red). Kemungkinannya terdapat gastritis dengan gabungan sakit perut, mual, muntah atau cirit-cirit. Pesakit juga boleh mendapat radang hati, radang otak (lebih pada kanak-kanak) dan juga dalam kes luarbiasa radang otot jantung (cardiomyopathy).

Sepanjang dua hari itu juga berbagai topik mengenai demam ini yang saya dengar dari pesakit-pesakit itu sendiri di antaranya ubat penawarnya.Ini ubatnya cubalah, Insya Allah demam lekas sembuh dengan izin Allah juga.

1. Daun Betik.

Ambil daun betik,dikisar hingga halus dan perah airnya. Campur sedikit air masak dan diberikan minum kepada pesakit.



2. Ketam Bunga.

Ambil isi ketam bunga dan dibuat sup. Berikan pada pesakit.



Sekian untuk hari ini. Selamat mencuba.

Akhir cerita

Akhir cerita

bintang yang ku tunjuk
cahayanya perlahan berubah kelam
hancur jatuh berantakan
padahal belum sempat ku utarakan
sajak-sajak cinta yang tercipta karenanya

taman langit seolah suram
petang tak benderang
tak membuat hatiku berteman.,

bintang hati telah lebur terganti
namun tiada arti
sajak ku suram tak ada setitik terang

mungkin inikah akhir cerita cinta
di tengah malam terhias purnama
menyatu dalam angin melantun pilu

purnama itu terluka,
bercucur air mata di tahan dengan senyum
sayup merekat dengan cinta
dalam pertemuan di iringi sepatah kata
“ini yang terbaik” bisikmu

daun menari sendu
angin melantun pilu
perpisahan memang harus tercipta

malam merapat pulang
di tengah sesal jalan ku kini terkikis kelam.

Oleh:trie

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